Drama
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Do you know people who always have to have someone they are mad at or someone that is their ultimate enemy? Someone that when you bring up a topic you can feel the hatred coming from that person? When you have a person in your life like this how do you deal with them? Because I find that my energy drains.
Over my lifetime, I have had several people in my life like this. I try to be a positive person and see different sides of various topics. Ultimately, I am seen as the ‘devil’s advocate’ sometimes because I will bring up different sides that are not always thought of. I am not saying I do not get angry or have a dark side because I do, but I like to think that I can speak rationally about topics that I do not agree with or even have strong feelings against. However, I don’t think that there is a topic that is off limits to discuss with me.
I care about people’s feelings and have (I know it sounds strange coming from me) always been what I call a ‘pleaser’. I don’t want to upset the people I love. Especially because I am not close (distance-wise) to many of them. I choose to chat with them about good things and not bring up the bad (or things that will upset). I would not mind talking about these topics if the person I was speaking with could speak rationally. However, other when a topic is brought up that is not in the “safe zone” it can end with a fight or someone really upset because that person only sees their side and it turns emotional. I think I am seen as cold and heartless with certain people because I do not show any emotion except joy. That is unfortunate because I am a complex person full of emotion.
Speaking in more specifics, there are people that this person cannot stand and I am in contact with these people (for various reasons). I have listened to the bad-mouthing throughout my life and I really do not like to hear it about anyone (whether someone I know or not). “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say something at all” should really be in place for all, not just some.
During the last round of drama, I have now been deemed untrustworthy and do not know right from wrong. This is unfortunate in the sense that I am not sure I am up for winning back the trust of this person. Again, I love this person and would not want to hurt them, but that is all that I seem to do these days. So with that, I will distance myself even further. I have to do what is best for me and my own immediate family. They do not like it when I am upset or hurting.
Many of you may be thinking is she talking about me and the answer is no. The person I am speaking of knows for sure because they are the one who left the voice mail last week!
Ciao…
She
June 26th, 2010 at 4:49 pm
*Hugs*
You’re doing what I’d do. Good on you.
June 26th, 2010 at 6:59 pm
Unfortunately it is true that there are those people who leave us no choice but to walk away from them. Doesn’t mean we don’t love them or wish them well, it just means we cannot allow them to impact our own lives with their emotional childishness. Hugs and Kisses
August 9th, 2010 at 12:08 am
Ack! Sad that we often have to deal with such people in our lives. After certain episode of drama last summer, I decided to cut out a great deal of BS. Thrilled to state that this Summer has been fabulous. I hope that you find peace… of that you make shure that your own personal space is filled only with goodness. Take care.
August 9th, 2010 at 7:57 pm
I have cut out the BS and I really feel much more at peace!
She